Posts Tagged ‘Parental Alienation’
Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
In A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, there’s a story about my alienated son refusing to attend a New York Yankees baseball game because, well, he was alienated.
His rejection that night hit me especially hard because the New York Yankees and Yankee Stadium is something my Dad shared with me, and something I wanted to share with my sons. Dad took me to my first Yankees’ game at the pre-renovated ”old” stadium in the 1960s. I wanted to give my sons the same fond memories of attending a game with their Dad that my Dad gave me.
George Steinbrenner, owner of the New York Yankees, died today. The Boss’ death comes two days after the death of long-time Yankee Stadium public address announcer Bob Sheppard. The House that Ruth Built is also gone – replaced last year by a “new” Yankee Stadium.
As alienated parents we often think of our children as if time stands still. We picture them as they looked the last time we were together. In our minds, they have the same friends and interests too. We’re well aware that months, and even years, have passed since we’ve seen them, but a small part of us wants to believe that one day we can pick up right where we left off.
Father Time constantly reminds us that nothing stays the same. Today George Steinbrenner entered the ranks of Yankees mythology. We’ll talk about him in the past tense — just like we talk about Ruth, Gehrig, DiMaggio and Mantle. Maybe one day I’ll attend a game with my son and tell him how I was sitting in the stands at the Old Timer’s Game when George brought Billy back, but it won’t be the same. The Boss is gone. The old stadium is gone. My son’s childhood is gone. Time marches on.
Tags: A Family's Heartbreak, Add new tag, Babe Ruth, Billy Martin, Bob Sheppard, George Steinbrenner, Joe DiMaggio, Lou Gehrig, Mickey Mantle, New York Yankees, Parental Alienation, Yankee Stadium Posted in A Family's Heartbreak, Mike Jeffries, Parental Alienation | 2 Comments »
Friday, July 9th, 2010
Mike Jeffries, author of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, will talk about surviving parental alienation later this month at two family-focused events in Washington D.C.
Jeffries will first address participants of the D.C. Family Preservation Rally Fest 2010 on Saturday, July 23 at 1:00 p.m. Jeffries will then move over to the Family Preservation Festival. The author’s appearance at the second event is scheduled for 3:o0 p.m. the same day.
Both events are located within walking distance of each other in downtown Washington D.C. The Rally Fest 2010 event is at the beginning of the National Mall between the Capital and the Capital Reflecting Pool. The Fesitival is in Upper Senate Park.
“I am thrilled to address both groups because everyone involved in these events are dedicated to raising the visibility of parental alienation,” Jeffries said. “In addition, many of the participants are alienated parents who would much rather be spending the summer weekend with their children. We hope we can help them deal with their status as targeted parents so they will be ready when their children reach out to them.”
Jeffries will also be at Cosi Restaurant on Friday evening at 8:00 p.m. signing copies of his book, A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation. Cosi is located at 1700 Pennslyvania Ave. N.W.
Tags: A Family's Heartbreak, Family Preservation D.C. Rally Fest 2010, Family Preservation Festival, Media Appearances, Mike Jeffries, Parental Alienation Posted in A Family's Heartbreak, Appearances, Divorce and healing, Family Preservation D.C. Rally Fest 2010, Family Preservation Festival, Mike Jeffries, Parental Alienation, coping | No Comments »
Friday, July 2nd, 2010
Long before an alienating parent starts badmouthing the other parent in front of the child, or disrupting the other parent’s time with the child, he or she sends signals that parental alienation may one day become a reality for the family.
Yesterday was the 10th anniversary of Elian Gonzalez’s return to Cuba. You remember Elian. He was five years old when a fisherman found him bobbing around the Atlantic Ocean in an inner tube. His Mom and others died in the waters off the Florida coast trying to reach the United States from Cuba. His family in Miami wanted to keep Elian in the U.S. — despite the wishes of his father in Cuba. Presidential candidates George W. Bush and Al Gore even got involved in the debate, and a SWAT team and INS agents had to pry Elian loose from his relatives’ custody so he could return to Cuba and his Dad.
A conversation with my future ex-wife about the Elian Gonzalez situation was one of my first signs that I would one day lose my relationship with my son. I missed the sign until yesterday — when I read that Elian said he is thankful for spending the last ten years with his father. But that’s the funny thing about signs — they are all around us. In my most recent Basil & Spice blog at http://www.basilandspice.com/love-and-relationships/72010-cubas-poster-boy-for-parental-alienation-elian-gonzale.html I explain how future alienated parents can miss the obvious.
Tags: A Family's Heartbreak, Al Gore, Basil & Spice, Choosing between Mom and Dad, Elian Gonzalez, George W. Bush, Mike Jeffries, Parental Alienation, Relationships Posted in A Family's Heartbreak, Basil & Spice, Mike Jeffries, Parental Alienation | No Comments »
Thursday, June 17th, 2010
What do you get when you introduce Mike Jeffries, the author of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation to Divorce Source Radio host Steve Peck?
Just that most informative, enlightening discussion on parental alienation you’ll find anywhere, that’s all. You can access the interview at http://www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.
“Steve Peck combines his background in broadcasting with his interest in family and divorce to produce a quality program that could go head-to-head with interview programs anywhere on radio or television,” says Jeffries. “His knowledge of the legal, psychological and emotional issues surrounding parental alienation allowed us to present perspectives of parental alienation that I don’t typically get to explore in interviews. Listeners will find the information enlightening and extremely valuable.”
Divorce Source Radio produces free programs featuring both legal and emotional advice from respected professionals. The weekly streaming podcasts are listened to by thousands of individuals through the iTunes store by searching “Divorce Source Radio” or on http://www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.
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Wednesday, June 9th, 2010
Mike Jeffries, author of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, discusses the case of a New York mother who is going to jail for her alienating behavior on his latest post for Basil & Spice at http://www.basilandspice.com/love-and-relationships/.
“In A Family’s Heartbreak we talk about how parental alienation just doesn’t damage a child’s relationship with the targeted parent, but eventually damages the child’s relationship with both parents,” Jeffries says. ” This alienating parent may think she is going to jail for the noblest of reasons, but wouldn’t the children be better off having the love an attention of both parents this summer rather than being estranged from one parent while the other parent sits in jail?”
Basil & Spice is a daily content provider to online and print news organizations. Mike Jeffries is one of 400 Basil & Spice contributors.
Tags: A Family's Heartbreak, Basil & Spice, Choosing between Mom and Dad, Dennis Hopper, Divorce and Custody, Mike Jeffries, Parental Alienation Posted in A Family's Heartbreak, Basil & Spice, Parental Alienation, Relationships | 2 Comments »
Friday, April 23rd, 2010
If you missed Mike Jeffries, author of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienationon on the Parents Rule! radio show, now is your chance to find out what you missed.
Join Jeffries as he discusses Parental Alienation Awareness Day, coping tips for targeted parents, and a whole lot more with Parents Rule! host Pat Montgomery. The one hour program was originally broadcast on April 15, 2010 on Americas Web Radio and Radio Sandy Springs. Listen to the podcast (.mp3)
Tags: A Family's Heartbreak, Media, Media Appearances, Mike Jeffries, Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation Awareness Day, Parents Rule!, Pat Montgomery Posted in A Family's Heartbreak, Appearances, Mike Jeffries, Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation Awareness Day, Parents Rule! | No Comments »
Wednesday, April 21st, 2010
There are all sorts of official days on the calendar.
Every January 19th we’re asked to celebrate National Popcorn Day. April 16th is set aside for Stress Awareness Day. Mother Goose has her own day on May 1st. Even catfish, thanks to a proclamation signed by catfish-loving President Ronald Reagan in 1987, get June 25th to call their own.
At A Family’s Heartbreak we love popcorn, we’re opposed to stress of any kind, and we would never say a bad word about Mother Goose. We don’t even mind catfish having their own day, even though we’re more partial to salmon. I’m sure if we would have budgeted more than five minutes for research we would have discovered that there is a National Salmon Day too.
However there is one day that deserves to stand apart from days acknowledging snack foods, nursery rhymes and fresh water fish. Parental Alienation Awareness Day is April 25. This is the fifth consecutive year that parents, friends and family members will gather on April 25 and bring attention to parental alienation — a destructive family dynamic that is destroying countless loving, parent/child relationships all over the world. On April 25 from Boston to Brazil, London to Los Angeles, and Singapore to Sydney, people will light candles, blow bubbles and share their heartbreaking stories — all to educate elected officials, legal and mental health professionals about a mental health issue that should not be ignored or mischaracterized any longer.
Contrary to what many damaged people and zealous advocates on the web would have you believe, parental alienation is not another name for pedophilia. Parental alienation is also not a legal strategy designed to allow an abusive parent to continue beating up on the kids. Finally, parental alienation is not the latest get-rich-quick-scheme from consultants and authors who are often accused of trying make money off the backs of people who are at their most financially vulnerable.
Parental alienation is the unhealthy byproduct of one parent’s fear of abandonment. These fears often date back to childhood. When a parent with these fears faces divorce or separation they need a child to take over for the exiting spouse or partner and keep those abandonment fears away. The parent pulls the child into the adult conflict and makes his or her fears the child’s fears. It doesn’t take long for a child, looking for security in a world where his or her parents are no longer working together to take care of the child’s needs, to form a very unhealthy, co-dependent relationship with the alienating parent. There is little room for the previously-loved other parent in the child’s new world.
At its core, parental alienation is about the alienating parent and child’s fears, and the child’s loyalty to the alienating parent. That reminds me, Loyalty Day is also May 1st.
Tags: A Family's Heartbreak, Advocacy, Loyalty Day, Mother Goose, National Catfish Day, National Popcorn Day, Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation Awareness Day, Stress Awareness Day Posted in A Family's Heartbreak, Advocacy, Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation Awareness Day | 2 Comments »
Tuesday, April 13th, 2010
Mike Jeffries, author of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, has a new blog entry on Basil & Spice at http://www.basilandspice.com/love-and-relationships/. In this month’s entry Jeffries promotes Parental Alienation Awareness Day and explains why parents alienate children from the children’s other parent.
“The broad readership of Basil & Spice is an ideal way to tell people about Parental Alienation Awareness Day on April 25, 2010,” Jeffries explains. “I can’t think of a better way to raise awareness of parental alienation than to participate in one of the many events going on in countries around the world. After all, awareness leads to education and education leads to change,” he added.
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Thursday, April 8th, 2010
Mike Jeffries, author of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, joins the Parents Rule! radio program on Thursday, April 15 from 2-3 p.m. EST on Radio Sandy Springs and Americas Web Radio.
“Parents Rule! is recognizing Parental Alienation Awareness Day on April 25 by devoting its April 15 show to the topic of parental alienation. I’m thrilled to join host Pat Montgomery and raise the visibility of an issue that affects countless children, parents and extended family members every year,” Jeffries said.
The Parents Rule! radio show is for parents of all ages and offers the information parents need and the encouragement they crave. Listeners can hear the program live on http://www.radiosandysprings.com or http://www.americaswebradio.com. Listeners can also call in and ask questions by dialing 404-943-1620. The show is also podcast on iTunes by browsing Parents Rule.
Pat Montgomery is the author of Now You Know What I Know: Parenting Wisdom of a Grandmother. Montgomery’s website is http://www.parentsrulewithpat.com.
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Saturday, March 27th, 2010
The March edition of Clinical Psychiatry News carried an opinion piece about the ongoing revisions to the upcoming edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). The piece was not about parental alienation. However, the author used a few paragraphs to present such an inaccurate, unsubstantiated and biased account of parental alienation and the people who support its inclusion in the DSM that it makes you wonder if anyone at the publication even reviews content prior to publication.
In the column the author stated that Dr. Richard Gardner was nothing more than a self-published protector of child sex abusers who was abusive to mothers in court. The author presented no evidence to support his claims, and chose to ignore that Gardner was published in many professsional publications; including The American Journal of Family Therapy, The American Journal of Forensic Psychology, and the Journal of the American Academy of Psychiatry and the Law. The author also ignored, or didn’t bother to find out, that family court is a place where judges, legal and mental health professionals are routinely rude and disrespectful to mothers and fathers. If a rude professional’s behavior was enough to keep a diagnosis out of the DSM, this bible of the mental health field would be reduced to a one page flyer.
The author further implied that any member of a Father’s Rights group is nothing more than a sexually abusive father who wants parental alienation in the DSM so he can keep abusing the kids. This statement would be laughable if it were not so damaging on two fronts: first, implying that any father who believes the other parent is trying to damage or destroy his relationship with their child must be abusive; and two, insulting the many loving fathers who have normal, healthy relationships with their children but believe in the broader goals of these organizations — goals that have nothing to do with parental alienation. Further, the author ignored the many loving mothers who have been alienated from their children by fathers. As we’ve said many times, neither mothers or fathers have cornered the market on the unhealthy emotional issues that lead one parent to alienate a child from another parent.
The author appeared to resent the political nature of updating the DSM and on that point we agree. Yet his inflammatory, unsubstantiated words about parental alienation, fathers and father’s rights groups was better suited to a special interest group’s marketing brochure than a professional mental health publication. While the author is entitled to his opinion, and Clinical Psychiatry News did label the column an “Opinion” piece, the fair and balanced thing for this publication to do would be to allow another professional to refute the biased and unsubstantiated claims about parental alienation in its next issue. No one expects an organization publication to match the journalistic standards of the New York Times or Washington Post, but even an organization publication should have minimum standards for fairness, balance and accuracy.
Tags: A Family's Heartbreak, American Journal of Family Therapy, American Journal of Forensic Psychology, Clinical Psychiatry News, Dr. Richard Gardner, DSM, Journal of the American Academy of Psychiatry and the Law, Parental Alienation, The New York Times, The Washington Post Posted in A Family's Heartbreak, American Psychiatry News, DSM-V, Dr. Richard Gardner, Parental Alienation | 5 Comments »
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