Imagine cutting yourself off from the outside world on July 15, 2000. You’d never know:
- The Twin Towers are missing from the New York City skyline.
- George Bush isn’t President of the United States and an African American is.
- The Dow Jones is 1,300 points higher yet people talk about a recession.
- The internet is on your cell phone.
- Kodak no longer makes film for your 35mm camera.
- There are more Harry Potter movies than books.
- You could follow a stranger’s thoughts — as long as he or she communicated in 140 characters or less.
Severely alienated children who remain cut off from their targeted parents and extended families years after the alienating parent selfishly pulled the child into the adult conflict are just as in the dark as someone who knows nothing about September 11th or Twitter.
These now alienated adults refuse the love and attention of their targeted parents and take a pass on meaningful relationships with their aging grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and formerly close family friends. These grown up children intentionally skip making memories that most people cherish.
There are countless adults still alienated from a parent years after everyone else in the family drama moved on with their lives. Perhaps it is easier for them to stay alienated rather than deal with the guilt of accepting a parent who never did anything to warrant the estrangement. Maybe it is easier for them to stay away rather than run the risk of disappointing their alienating parent. Perhaps these alienated adult children are simply too proud to admit that turning away every time the targeted parent tried to heal the rift between them was wrong.
Whatever their reason, these alienated adult children remain in the dark. They don’t know anything about the events and celebrations that define close-knit, loving families. They don’t know anything about the things that comprise one half of who they are. And saddest of all, they don’t even know that they remain stuck in the past while their targeted parents and extended families move forward making more cherished memories.