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Sunday, March 27th, 2011
A Family’s Heartbreak, LLC. will give away free copies of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation to celebrate the book’s second anniversary of helping families understand and address parental alienation.
“It’s been a very gratifying two years,” explains author Mike Jeffries. “If you would have told me when I was writing A Family’s Heartbreak in the small apartment I moved to during the divorce that my words would reach parents in places as far away as the U.K., Canada, Israel, Australia, New Zealand, South Africa and countless other countries I wouldn’t have believed it. It just goes to show how universal the problem of parental alienation is and how hungry parents, legal and mental health professionals are for objective information. So in honor of the book’s anniversary we’re going to give away ten copies of the book to the first ten people who write us via our website at http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com.
Readers, including legal and mental health professionals, have raved about A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation in the two years since it’s publication. The American Journal of Family Therapy said, “this book should be required reading for any parent who is victimized by parental alienation as well as professionals who treat or evaluate alienation.” Virginia Gilbert, a marriage and family therapist, also said the book should be required reading, “for every graduate psychology and family therapy training program,” while Attorney David Pisarra from Men’s Family Law called the book, “an excellent exploration into the twisted ‘Wonderland’ that is parental alienation.”
“We’ve been honored that so many people have taken the time to read and respond positively to A Family’s Heartbreak,” Jeffries added, “that we want to give something back to start our third year on the market. Our giveaway is simple and sincere — the first 10 people to write me at email@example.com will get a free copy of our book. We’ll even pay the postage. All the writer has to do is give us a name and a mailing address.”
A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation is the true story of one parent’s struggle to maintain a normal, loving relationship with his young son in the face of overwhelming odds. You can purchase the book at http://afamilysheartbreak.com, order it through any bookstore, or buy it at Amazon — http://www.amazon.com/Familys-Heartbreak-Introduction-Parental-Alienation/dp/0979696011/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1301246509&sr=1-1.
Wednesday, September 22nd, 2010
Poin.til.lism (noun): a late 19th-century style of painting in which a picture is constructed from dots of pure color that blend, at a distance, into recognizable shapes and various color tones.
Let’s give credit to Attorney David Pisarra of www.mensfamilylaw.com for describing parental alienation both beautifully and accurately. In his recent review of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, Pisarra compared parental alienation to the style of painting made famous by French painter Georges Seurat.
“Parental alienation is a series of seemingly innocent miscommunication, or concerns for the well-being of a child; and it is only when the dots are connected that you see the complete picture,” Pisarra said in his review.
Pisarra also said A Family’s Heartbreak should be required reading for anyone involved in parental alienation cases. “For every man who is enduring this hell, for every lawyer who fights this form of child abuse, and for all the therapists who have to treat the collaterally damaged children, this book should be a first resource in their armament,” he said.
You can find Attorney Pisarra’s complete review of A Family’s Heartbreak at http://mensfamilylaw.wordpress.com/2010/09/22/a-pointillist-view-of-parental-alienation-one-fathers-experience/.
Wednesday, May 12th, 2010
“It is the combination of the detailed account of the author attempting to come to grips with his inability to normalize his relationship with his son, together with Dr. Davies providing a great deal of support and insight to him as to how alienation takes place, that makes this book required reading for any parent who is victimized by parental alienation as well as professionals who treat or evaluate alienation.”
That’s just one excerpt from The American Journal of Family Therapy’s recent review of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation. The American Journal of Family Therapy published the review in its upcoming issue, Volume 38, Issue 3, 2010, pages 279-280, and is available online. The publication will be out in print on May 28, 2010.
The American Journal of Family Therapy is the incisive, authoritative, independent voice in an ever-changing field. The publication includes the latest techniques for treating families; theory on normal and dysfunctional family relationships; research on sexuality and intimacy; the effects of traditional and alternative family styles; and community approaches to family intervention. All articles in the publication undergo editorial screening and peer review.
The review also cites author Mike Jeffries for, “providing the reader with a rational understanding of the risk factors that can be potentiated in the alienating parent as a result of the threat of abandonment. The reader is presented with a rational understanding of what could otherwise be an incomprehensible switch of loyalties by the child from being attuned to both parents to the child’s completely disregarding, denigrating, and rejecting the other parent and the other parent’s extended family.”
The review, written by Abe Worenklein, Ph.D., a Clinical Psychologist from Outremont, Quebec, also calls parental alienation a serious form of abuse. “Furthermore,” Worenklein wrote, “Jeffries’ and Davies’ accounts make it very clear that not only is an alienated child being robbed of his childhood but that the alienation should be seen as a serious form of psychological/emotional abuse that can impact significantly on future relationships and on the child’s development.”
A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, is available at http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com, on Amazon, and through bookstores worldwide.
Friday, September 4th, 2009
Germany, Austria, the U.K…
No, we’re not about to launch into a remake “Dancing in the Streets.” From our perspective, David Bowie and Mick Jagger made the ultimate remake of the Martha Reeves & the Vandella’s song.
However we are pointing out that the reach of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation continues to expand. The book is helping people in countries around the world understand and cope with parental alienation. And for anyone who thinks parental alienation is purely a father’s issue, or a U.S./Canadian issue, we hope the latest professionals to review A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation from their respective countries and perspectives can help put those myths to rest.
Christian T. Dum, Ph.D., heads a non-profit organization (www.beideeltern.de) in Germany which deals with psychological and legal child custody questions. Dum says, “Mike Jeffries had never heard of parental alienation, but in his desire to understand what was happening he eventually found in Dr. Davies a professional who was very familiar with this phenomenon. Their latter cooperation as affected parent and psychological expert on authoring this book makes it truly exceptional, different from professional literature dissecting the problem from the view point of a neutral scientist, different from the usual self help book, and different from personal accounts of similar experiences.” You can see his complete review at http://www.beideeltern.de/jeffries.htm
Kimber Adams is a Mom living in Vienna, Austria and the author of A Parentectomy (http://www.theparentectomy.com/). In her book, Adams vividly illustrates the heartbreak, frustration and hopelessness that parents experience when their children are turned against them in order to fill the other parent’s unhealthy emotional needs. After she finished reading A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation Adams wrote, “All I can say is, ‘What a gift! WHAT A GIFT you have given targeted parents!!’ A Family’s Heartbreak is so appropriately titled. It is an excellent introduction to parental alienation – concise and all-encompassing. It’s a remarkable contribution to the information available on parental alienation.”
Natasha Phillips is a non-practicing barrister and founder of “Divorce Manual” in the U.K. Phillips works for pressure groups like Justice for Families – combining political and legal policy proposals with a goal of reforming the Family Justice System in the U.K. Phillips said, “The tragedy told in this book is underscored with wry humour and well placed heartfelt home truths that resonate throughout the book… Whether you find yourself laughing at the Banana Schedule or intrigued by the solutions Michael offers, A Family’s Heartbreak is a must read, with startling similarities between the U.K. and U.S. family law courts.” You can read Phillips’ complete review at Researching Reform.
And the beat goes on.
Tuesday, June 23rd, 2009
Professionals who deal with alienation on a daily basis continue to recognize A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, as a valuable resource for families, legal professionals and the courts.
Mark Roseman, a Certified Family Court Mediator in Florida says that nearly 35 percent of all parents experience some sort of alienation, and that many are themselves victims of high conflict divorce. Roseman also indicates that courts are addressing the presence of alienation and alienating behavior more than ever before. Even still, he says, “Improved child outcomes necessitate an educated judiciary and legal system. A Family’s Heartbreak will be an important tool for such achievement.”
Joan Kloth-Zanard is a Life Coach and Counselor who runs three non-profit, online, parental alienation support groups. She says A Family’s Heartbreak will “help first-timers prepare for what they are up against,” and also help parents who are in the middle of their parental alienation nightmares. Kloth-Zanard adds, “In fact, this book could even help those who are truly lost from their children’s lives as it gives them a better understanding as well as belief that they are not alone and that they were powerless given the poor set of resources available to them in the courts.”
We wrote A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation to educate the legal and mental health communities about parental alienation and help other families avoid this painful and life-altering situation. If you know an attorney, counselor or therapist who could benefit from this information, please buy a copy of A Family’s Heartbreak and send it to him or her. You’ll help people who will never know your name, but who will be eternally grateful that someone took the time to educate a professional who was able to protect a child’s relationships with his or her parents.
Wednesday, May 27th, 2009
The overwhelmingly positive feedback for A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation continues to roll in.
Dads.Divorce.com’s review of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation indicates the book will “resound in a particularly comforting and familiar way to a targeted parent as Jeffries describes the warning signs that he unwittingly dismissed during the marriage… the particulars of increasingly dysfunctional relations within the fractured family, and the desperation of a parent powerless to intercede and stop the abuse.”
DadsDivorce.com’s Rick Ortiz also said, “Jeffries handles the difficult subject with a mastery that comes from not only his personal experience but also his professional understanding of how to make the incomprehensible as clear as it can be. Suggest this book to a friend who doesn’t know where to go for help.”
For the complete review visit DadsDivorce.com at http://www.dadsdivorce.com/blog/Book-Review-A-Familys-Heartbreak-A-Parents-Introduction-To-Parental-Alienation.html
Wednesday, May 20th, 2009
Tracy Achen, an editor at WomansDivorce.com reviewed A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, and said the book, “will give friends and family members of the alienated parent a much better picture of what is happening in your loved-one’s life.”
Some of Ms. Achen’s other comments were:
“Most books and articles on this subject are rather clinical and written for legal professionals, counselors and therapists. This book takes you into the everyday life and challenges of an alienated parent.”
“I was very impressed with the extensive amount of research that went into this book and Mike Jeffries’ willingess to expose his story. What I found refreshing was Jeffries’ ability to step back and take a journalist’s view of the whole story.”
“This is a truly captivating book that I highly recommend to anyone facing or involved with a parental alienation case.”
Friday, May 8th, 2009
A parent in California recently wrote to tell us that A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation has been a great source of support and has helped him tie together concepts from other parental alienation books and articles. But the part of his letter that surprised us the most was this —
“I really appreciate the humor. On some of your anecdotes I laughed until I cried… at this stage humor is the best medicine for me.”
They (whoever “they” are) say laughter is the best medicine so with Mother’s Day coming up here’s an excerpt from the book that we hope helps alienated Mom’s and Dads through a rough day. It’s about my son Jared:
“… Jared was too smart for the third grade. He ended up skipping a year in school but not before having problems with his third grade teacher. For discipline, this teacher made Jared write down all the counties in the state. We lived in Pennsylvania at the time. Pennsylvania is a big state. Jared spent a lot of time writing.
Jared didn’t mind rewriting the counties over and over again. He enjoyed the exercise so much he started writing down the counties even when he wasn’t in trouble. He always had a fresh copy of counties to hand in to his teacher when he needed one. He also had plenty of copies to sell to his classmates when they were in trouble. When his teacher finally caught on to Jared’s entrepreneurial approach to the third grade, she wasn’t amused. She didn’t give Jared high marks for his understanding if supply-side economics either.”
Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mom’s who aren’t with their children this Mother’s Day. Please remember that parental alienation isn’t about whether or not you were a good Mom. Parental alienation is about the other parent’s unresolved emotional issues.
Thursday, April 23rd, 2009
We were thrilled when Dr. L.F. Lowenstein agreed to review A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation.
Dr. Lowenstein (M.A. Dip. Psych., Ph.D.) is the author of numerous books and over 350 articles — including more than 50 articles on parental alienation. For the last 20 years he has been a Forensic Psychologist specializing in Clinical Psychology, Educational Psychology and general problems related to psychological changes within individuals.
Here are excerpts of his review of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation:
“As one who has himself written a book on parental alienation, studied the concept of parental alienation and the activity of damaging the personal relationship with children, I felt this book very deeply — probably almost as deeply as the writer.”
“I enjoyed the simple analogies in the book like, ‘Parental alienation reminds me of an old-fashioned western… the good guy in white and the bad guy in black.’ Each chapter aptly describes the contents to come like ‘Living with Alienation, Looking for Help and Game, Set, Match.’ There is a discussion about the ‘verbal switch’ which follows divorce and the disassociation of one parent from the other so that the children are clear that they are choosing between parents.”
“It is my view that every Judge dealing with parental alienation in America, as well as in other countries, should have a copy of this book and study it carefully in order to understand the evil which is being committed by a parent, whether mother or father, who turns a loving child against a formerly loved parent.”
“… one child was never alienated against his father as he was able to stand up to the process which is indeed a rare gift among young children.”
“I hope books like ‘A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation,’ will contribute in the fight for justice for our children and their futures.”