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TV and parental alienation — past and present

Wednesday, October 20th, 2010

In a week when The Dr. Phil Show features bad parenting by the anti-June and Ward Cleaver in its parental alienation-themed show today, it is worth mentioning that Barbara Billingsley, the actress who played the iconic television Mom June Cleaver on Leave it to Beaver, died recently in California. She was 94 years old.

According to Jill Egizii, President of the Parental Alienation Awareness Organization (PAAO) and a guest on The Dr. Phil Show, the parents in the family Dr. Phil selected for the program do not co-parent effectively and their poor co-parenting could ultimately result in parental alienation. While Dr. Phil spent most of the program urging the parents to improve their parenting and communication skills, Egizii said she highlighted the affects of parental alienation on children and the PAAO’s work at the end of the program.

Parents and extended family members, as well as legal and mental health professionals, should go to The Dr. Phil Show website at after the episode airs and encourage Dr. Phil and his producers to do programs focused solely on parental alienation. Episodes that explain what drives an alienating parent to damage, and in some cases destroy, his or her child’s relationship with the child’s other parent, and episodes that explore how professionals can legally and therapeutically address alienation, will help families avoid this destructive family dynamic.

If the parents on The Dr. Phil Show are the anti-June and Ward Cleaver, than June and Ward should be the anti-parental alienation parents. In our latest blog post for Basil & Spice at, we highlight what divorcing parents can learn from Wally and Beaver’s Mom and Dad — even if they are just fictional characters on a 50-year old television show.

Television no place to address parental alienation

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

Wanted: Popular television program seeks one parental alienation family — including alienating parent, targeted parent and alienated child — to reunite in front of a national television audience. No experience necessary. Dramatic presentation skills preferred. Responsibilities include condensing years of acrimony and mistrust into easy-to-understand sound bites that fit between commercials, following the advice of a person you’ve just met, and participating in post-show counseling that Courts have previously ordered and you’ve avoided. Compensation is non-existent, travel expenses are paid. To apply contact The Dr. Phil Show. 

Yes, The Dr. Phil Show is doing another show on parental alienation and Dr. Phil’s producers are frantically searching for a parental alienation family willing to appear on the program. While many targeted parents want to believe that Dr. Phil can reunite them with their children after the Courts, family members, friends and full-time mental health professionals couldn’t, Mike Jeffries, author of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, uses his latest Basil & Spice blog at to point out that television can’t script a happily-ever-after ending to parental alienation.

Reunion story incomplete without exploring alienation angle

Wednesday, August 11th, 2010

In his latest column for Basil & Spice, Mike Jeffries, author of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, looks for signs of parental alienation in the case of the mother who was reunited with her children after thinking they were dead for 30 years. 

“The story is heartwarming, that’s for sure,” Jeffries said. “However the media had the perfect opportunity to discuss the reunion within the context of an ex-husband who may have deliberately alienated two little children from their mother for three decades and the media swung and missed.”

To read Jeffries’ complete column and leave a comment please visit

The signs of future alienating behavior

Friday, July 2nd, 2010

Long before an alienating parent starts badmouthing the other parent in front of the child, or disrupting the other parent’s time with the child, he or she sends signals that parental alienation may one day become a reality for the family.

Yesterday was the 10th anniversary of Elian Gonzalez’s return to Cuba. You remember Elian. He was five years old when a fisherman found him bobbing around the Atlantic Ocean in an inner tube. His Mom and others died in the waters off the Florida coast trying to reach the United States from Cuba. His family in Miami wanted to keep Elian in the U.S. — despite the wishes of his father in Cuba. Presidential candidates George W. Bush and Al Gore even got involved in the debate, and a SWAT team and INS agents had to pry Elian loose from his relatives’ custody so he could return to Cuba and his Dad.

A conversation with my future ex-wife about the Elian Gonzalez situation was one of my first signs that I would one day lose my relationship with my son. I missed the sign until yesterday — when I read that Elian said he is thankful for spending the last ten years with his father. But that’s the funny thing about signs — they are all around us. In my most recent Basil & Spice blog at I explain how future alienated parents can miss the obvious.

Jail time for an alienating parent

Wednesday, June 9th, 2010

Mike Jeffries, author of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, discusses the case of a New York mother who is going to jail for her alienating behavior on his latest post for Basil & Spice at

“In A Family’s Heartbreak we talk about how parental alienation just doesn’t damage a child’s relationship with the targeted parent, but eventually damages the child’s relationship with both parents,” Jeffries says. ” This alienating parent may think she is going to jail for the noblest of reasons, but wouldn’t the children be better off having the love an attention of both parents this summer rather than being estranged from one parent while the other parent sits in jail?”

Basil & Spice is a daily content provider to online and print news organizations. Mike Jeffries is one of 400 Basil & Spice contributors.

Basil & Spice highlights Awareness Day

Tuesday, April 13th, 2010

Mike Jeffries, author of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, has a new blog entry on Basil & Spice at In this month’s entry Jeffries promotes Parental Alienation Awareness Day and explains why parents alienate children from the children’s other parent.

“The broad readership of Basil & Spice is an ideal way to tell people about Parental Alienation Awareness Day on April 25, 2010,” Jeffries explains. “I can’t think of a better way to raise awareness of parental alienation than to participate in one of the many events going on in countries around the world. After all, awareness leads to education and education leads to change,” he added.

For more information on Parental Alienation Awareness Day you can visit

Follow Mike Jeffries on Basil & Spice

Wednesday, March 10th, 2010

Can’t get enough of Mike Jeffries, author of A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation?

Basil & Spice (, a blog founded in 2006, has added Jeffries as a regular contributor on parental alienation. Jeffries will write a monthly column and focus on separating parental alienation fact from fiction. You can find his first column in the Love and Relationship section at

Basil & Spice features more than 300 professional contributors blogging about topics such as finance, wellness, health care, fitness and living green. “We’re all about keeping Basil & Spice current, fresh and real,” says founder Kelly Jad’on.

“I’m delighted to join such a professional blog and help bring the issue of parental alienation to a much broader audience,” Jeffries says. “The more we educate the public about parental alienation the more we can help families avoid it.”

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