Archive for March, 2009

Alienation and the Courts

Saturday, March 28th, 2009

We’re often asked if there are any court cases where parental alienation was recognized by the judge. 

A recent newspaper article out of Toronto reports that during the past two months alone, an Ontario Superior Court judge and a British Columbia Supreme Court judge ruled in both cases that the parent who embarked on a “campaign of vengefulness” toward the other parent must relinquish any custodial or visitation rights of his or her child for at least a period of about one year.

In the British Columbia case, which wrapped up last week, Justice Donna Martinson ruled that the mother had been “resourceful, highly manipulative, and untruthful” and upheld the court’s previous decision to grant sole custody to the targeted father. According to court documents, the mother “undermined” the child’s relationship with her therapist, breached an earlier court order by sneaking inappropriate messages to the child through a birthday card, taunted the child with pictures of the dog she left behind upon moving in with her father, and accused the father of abuse – as many alienating parents do.

And in the Ontario case, the judge recommended the targeted parent and his daughter attend a four-day Dallas-based Family Workshop in Parental Alienation that some opponents liken to a “deprogramming” centre.

The paper further reported that between 1987 and January 31, 2009, there have been roughly 74 cases in which Canada’s courts acknowledged parental alienation in its decision, according to research presented at the International Conference of Parental Alienation by Gene Colman, a Toronto lawyer.

No Joke: April 1 TalkShoe on Parental Alienation

Thursday, March 26th, 2009

I’ve been invited to appear on Get Your Justice Live, hosted by Lary Holland on April 1 at 8:00 p.m. EDT.  We’ll talk about parental alienation and our new book, A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation.  Lary assures me my invitation isn’t part of an April Fools prank. 

Get Your Justice is an interactive internet talk radio show that focuses on educating the general public and taking action to reform and inform the various levels of government on many key issues.

I’ve done TalkShoe events in the past and these programs are great opportunities to share information, perspectives and ideas on topics that have touched us all.  If you are a targeted parent, join us on April 1 and you’ll quickly discover that you are not alone.  There are many people who have gone through, and are going through, exactly what you have experienced.  All are standing by to offer support and a suggestion or two.

Lary has provided the following information —

Live Call Ins: 724-444-7444 TALK CAST ID: 39517, or tune in for live or archived shows at


Sunday, March 22nd, 2009
I wish I never wrote A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation. I wish I never heard of parental alienation.  If I had my way, I would have spent the last few years being a father to my son — happily oblivious to the pain and heartbreak parental alienation was inflicting on countless parents, children and extended family members all over the world.

But as someone once said to me, “Life is what happens to you when you are planning your life.”

I was Dr. Joel Davies’ client the first time I heard the phrase parental alienation.  I sat in his office describing the change in my young son’s behavior at my soon-to-be ex-wife’s urging.  I was heartbroken and confused.  I was also angry.  I was discovering that most of the legal and mental health professionals involved in my case had never heard of parental alienation, and many of those who had heard of it weren’t interested in doing anything more than give lip service to the phrase, “best interests of the child.”

Dr. Davies introduced me to parental alienation that day.  Months later I was sitting in his office again.  Time had reduced the initial pain of being an alienated parent to a dull ache.  I was learning to live with the ache; but I was still angry.  More parents and children were becoming victims of alienation every day, yet I never heard parental alienation mentioned in divorce, child custody and parenting discussions on television, in print and on the web.

We wrote A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation to help parents, legal and mental health professionals deal with this very destructive family dynamic.  We’re sorry you have a need for this information, but we’re confident A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation will help you understand alienation and make good decisions under very stressful and difficult conditions.

Please check back with us often.  We’ll provide new links to resources and articles on a regular basis.  You can use this blog to share your story and receive support from others who understand your situation.  Contact us if you need a reference or would like to tell others about a professional who has helped you.  A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation is a book.  We hope becomes a community.

-Michael Jeffries
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